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booksandcatslover:

amjjones:

At the risk of writing another long-arse post, repeating myself, and being called sanctimonious, let me say…

The fact that a significant portion of Tom’s fandom thinks that harassment (tweeting at him for ‘lying’ and not being where they want him to be), hate blogs, wishes of harm (to career or self), manipulation of facts, etc., is acceptable because they’re ‘upset’ or feel ‘betrayed’ is highly worrying to me.

The fact that they don’t see the harm in their actions is even more worrying.

Some of these girls and women are punishing him for ‘lying’ when he did no such thing. They’re blowing things out of proportion and twisting facts to make him into the bad guy and themselves into poor victims who were deceived. They’re imposing expectations and standards on him and then getting angry at him for not meeting them.

I already said as much in a reblog, but it bears repeating: how you act and treat others online may eventually have an impact on how you treats others in your ‘real’ life. If people constantly affirm that it’s okay to mistreat strangers online as punishment for their misconstrued relationship and reaction to them, all because they’re a fan of the person… then I do worry that such an attitude of entitlement and anger will bleed over into how they feel about – and possibly treat – people irl.

Maybe it won’t. Maybe the anger expressed on the Internet is entirely fuelled by the disconnect between person and screen, and these people never treat their real relationships and friends this way. But there’s a chance they will. And I don’t want to see anyone take that chance. There’s also the chance that directing so much anger online will eventually build up and cause serious personal harm. How many people have I heard about breaking down and crying over all this, because they’re so angry? A fair few.

And you know what? It’s all good and well telling me and others that ‘we’re allowed feelings and opinions’ but what some don’t understand is that these feelings and opinions are directly harming themselves and others. They’re not healthy. How on earth can you say that starting a hate blog, crying – literally crying and being distressed – over a ‘PR stunt’, spamming Tom with tweets about getting back to Australia, trying to start hashtags like #TomIsALiarParty – how can you say any of that is healthy?

It isn’t. It truly, truly is not healthy. Expressing your feelings and emotions in such an angry, aggressive and abusive manner is not healthy and should not be encouraged. If I am upset at someone in real life, I do not have the right to spam them with texts and voice messages calling them a liar – for two months. I do not have the right to whisper lies in people’s ears to drag them down. I do not have the right to cruelly devalue their achievements or enjoy their humiliation.

The same is true of the online sphere. Don’t kid yourself. The same is true of the online sphere. Think about that before you place your feelings and entitlement as a ‘fan’ over the dignity and autonomy of another person.

I thought the same things, but I could never express them so well. Thank you @amjjones

The entire thing is highly disturbing and extremely frightening. These disillusioned people’s separation from online behavior versus IRL is tremendously alarming. There is, in fact, no difference. Words and actions matter. Both online and everywhere else. Opinions and feelings are one thing. How those feelings are acted upon is the crux of the issue, online or IRL it doesn’t matter.

And an important reminder for anyone who thinks being a celebrity makes this type of behavior OK and almost expected and warranted. Since when does celebrity equal dehumanization?

Remember these are REAL people you are doing this to. Honest to goodness people, flesh and blood, who deserve to live their lives just like everyone else.

sincerejester:

Tom Hiddleston & SincereJester, 5 June, 2016.

Wizard World Philadelphia 2016

[DO NOT manip or repost this photo; it was an act of random fandom.]

ancientfinnishgoddess:

musicfashionandscotch:

ancientfinnishgoddess:

ancientfinnishgoddess:

I have spent the entire weekend watching photos from Wizard World. The photos have been amazing, funny and everything you can expect from a goofball and his fans.

But today people have posted also their experiences in writing or by videos and in every single one the message is the same: Tom is clearly honestly deeply touched by the things he inspires people to do. No matter if it’s being just a better person or pursuing a dream, he is in awe when people tell him that he has been the inspiration behind it.

And again not even one word about anything else but that he is humble, kind and considerate but also occasionally a cheeky flirt.

Being all of that is what we all should strive for: being a good person, honest and considerate of others. It doesn’t mean you should try to shut your emotions away and pretend that everything is ok when it’s not. It means that there is time and place for showing also your not so pretty parts (figuratively speaking), the annoyance over something or if you’ve had a louzy day, and it is not to blur it all on people who didn’t cause it and who don’t deserve it. Everyone has bad days, sure, but being positive and considerate is a conscious choice you make.

This is why I respect Tom so much. He has said it himself too that positivity is a choice he makes and I agree on that.

And that is what he has inspired me to do.

You live the life you make for yourself and you must make a conscious decision on what do you want your life to be. It is not about the money or your occupation or if you like to go to work or not. Those things help, yes, but more important is how you view the world around you and how you interact with it. If you think that nothing good ever happens to you and you are always going to be in the shadows when everyone else is in the limelight – then that is the life you are going to have. Or if you think that life just happens to you and there’s nothing you can do to it – then that is exactly what happens.

Positive attitude doesn’t mean being naiive or not standing up for yourself. It is about making conscious choices about life and how you want to live it and being considerate to others. You can never please everyone and that is not even the point. You can’t make other people think what you want them to think. You can only make choices on what do you think. You are the only one person in the world who can do that. It is also not about making easy choices but about making the right ones.

And this is where I come to another inspiration from Tom I hold dear: “We all have two lives. The second one begins when you realize that you only have one life to live.” That is what making conscious choices about life is all about. Living the one life you have to the fullest and the way you want to live it. Usually making it happen is not easy and you might have to make big decisions and also difficult choices – the ones that are not easy but right ones.

Life just doesn’t happen to you, unless you let it.

I stumbled upon this post I wrote this a while before this fandom changed for good. I’m very happy to say that for me all the things I wrote then are as true today as they were then. He is such a great person and I’m proud to be his fan.

@ancientfinnishgoddess I love you