pervocracy:

What I Mean When I Say I’m Sex-Positive

  • I think freedom of sexuality is something that we all need and very few of us have
  • I think sexual pleasure is a legitimate thing to want and ethically pursue
  • I do not judge people for the (consensual) sex that they have or want
  • I will not tolerate slut-shaming
  • I will not tolerate hatred of people based on gender or orientation (including asexual)
  • I will not tolerate hatred of sex workers
  • I believe comprehensive, honest, non-judgmental sex education is necessary for public health and happiness
  • I think understanding of sexual consent–what it is, why it matters–is sorely lacking in society and crucially important
  • I reject preconceptions of what kind of sexuality a person should have, whether these preconceptions are based on gender, age, culture, disability, survivor status, or basically anything else
  • I value people’s individual freedom of choice in determining their sex lives (including the choices not to have sex)

What I Don’t Mean

  • Everyone should have sex
  • Everyone should have kinky, non-monogamous, exhibitionistic, pansexual sex
  • Accepting someone’s sexuality means you have to participate in it, watch them engage in it, or hear about it in detail
  • Nothing related to sex is ever hurtful for anyone
  • Feminism should be all about sex
  • Sex fixes everything

Sometimes, I prefer fanfiction to canon

*sigh*

Just remember, folks, and this is why honestly I don’t care: 

It’s FANTASY, not REALITY. 

By the FANS, for the FANS.

We can dream and write and desire whatever the fuck we want.

But don’t fall into the celebrity gossip quicksand. Fuck the fame monster and respect their privacy. They owe us NOTHING. They can live in their reality; and we can indulge in our fantasy. 

Just don’t blur the two.

Don’t like what you see? Don’t look. Wish them well and choose your own level of interest. Remember, it’s not about their reality; it’s not even about them, per se. In reality, we are the eternal audience. In fantasy, we can choose our own interest, express ourselves in any way we want. But don’t cross the streams. 

Be a fan if you want. Throw up your hands in despair and walk away from it if you want. Log off, take a break, reality check, whatever. But be a responsible, sane fan, and keep it safe. 

[and now back to writing…]

Sometimes, I prefer fanfiction to canon

outosumi:

Two women talking about a trans woman using women’s restroom.

Lady A: He is in there only to peep on women.

Lady B: Were you there to peep on other women?

Lady A: No.

Lady B: Neither was she.

Lady A: She is a he!

Lady B: Are you a he?

Lady A: No.

Lady B: Neither is she.

Lady A: But he has a penis!

Lady B: Have you seen her penis?

Lady A: Yes!

Lady B: Then I firmly believe you are the one who did the peeping.